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Unhealthy habits

unhealthy habits

Everyone forms some sort of habit - some form of coping mechanism. Whether it's something simple like having a bath every time you feel sad or reading a chapter of a book when you feel anxious. Everyone has that one thing.

But some can be unhealthy - some people, without noticing, can form unhealthy habits to cope with the stresses of life. Not just adults either, children and teenagers can develop unhealthy habits too. I've had my fair share of habits, good and bad. Some, I'm still breaking out of. Ever since I was a child, I've bitten my nails and scratched the skin around them when I've felt nervous - it's quite a common habit, but I'm only now trying to break out of it: after 15 years I've finally stopped biting my nails and the skin around my fingers are starting to heal though I still struggle with this one. But I've faced more damaging, unhealthy habits too. I self harmed to turn my anger and depression into a physical form rather than an emotional one, I then started smoking to try and stop self harming which lol didn't work, I just had two unhealthy habits now and then I started drinking to drown out my demons, too. Most of these habits formed at the age of 13, I stopped self harming at 16, stopped drinking to drown my demons at 16, stopped drinking all together at 19 and now at 21, I've been smoke free for 4 months.

So why do people form unhealthy habits? Like, I understand it's a coping mechanism, but why do some people go down the self destructive route rather than the self care route? Why do some people turn to bath bombs and some turn to jagerbombs? Is it down to where they're from - if you grow up on a council estate where drug addicts and alcoholics are a usual occurrence, does it subconsciously plant that seed in your head so when life's not going the way you want it you follow suit and turn to alcohol or drugs? Is it down to the media - glorifying drugs, alcohol and self harm: films and tv programs insinuating it's okay because someone will save you from the pain you're in eventually, but until then pop some pills and chase them with some vodka? What about eating disorders - when everything is spiralling out of control and their food is the only thing they can keep tabs on what gave them the impression controlling their weight will solve everything? Are we doomed? If we form unhealthy habits, are we stuck with them for life? I don't think so. Like I said before, I've battled all of my unhealthy habits and I'm currently forming better ones so there's no reason why you can't do the same.

I think it's a little bit of everything, I think the main factors are:
The people in your life as you grow up: If you're surrounded by stable, sound minded people who deal with situations in a healthy way I think you're more likely to form healthy habits to deal with life as you grow up apposed to if you're around people who deal with situations in unhealthy ways.
How the media showcases coping mechanisms: I've already written about how I believe the media brainwashes people, so I definitely think the media glorifies problematic coping mechanisms such as self harm, eating disorders, drugs and alcohol - not once have I seen an angry or upset person in a film or tv program meditate or have a relaxing bath, I've only seen them knock back a glass of vodka or spark up a spliff. You may not think these things affect you because "it's just a film" or just a t.v program but these scenarios seep into the cracks of your subconscious and influence your reactions to situations because it's all you know.

I don't believe people will turn to alcohol or drugs without a present influence in their life, I mean, why would they? 

Why do you think people form unhealthy habits? What are some of yours?


  1. This is a great, though provoking question. The media definitely romanticizes the idea of a broken down person hitting the bottle or spiraling into drugs. There always seems to be some desperation when people go to really bad habits like that. Desperation to fill a void, or to just take your mind off of what's wrong in life. It certainly would be refreshing to see someone on TV go to a therapists office or to take up exercise instead, wouldn't it?

    1. Thank you Gina. yeah I agree, it'd be wonderful if the media suggested healthy coping mechanisms like you said, going to therapy or going for a run but I guess until then, we have to use our platforms to promote healthy ways instead x

  2. Definitely agree on the media idealizing problems! Maybe in a way it's in our nature - even though that's no excuse - but humans have habits and routines because it's sometimes easier than breaking out of them.

    1. Yeah I see where you're coming from, as humans we look for solutions to our problems, that's why we usually focus more on the negative in life, and I suppose turning to drugs or alcohol which gives you a quick fix of happiness is easier than actually trying to work through shit

  3. I think my eating disorder is probably the worst one, although a bit more serious than a "habit", but last night after a few hours crying straight (honesty hour anyone?!) i've decided to really renew my efforts to get back on track and this illness under control, because it ISN'T helping me in the long run. It's only temporary relief and that never works. Thank you for your honesty as ever on your blog, always check out for new posts from you!

    Bumble and Be

    1. Aw man, I'm glad this post has helped you realise that. I do suggest you see a professional (if you haven't already) because eating disorders are serious illnesses and you would need help and guidance from someone wh knows what they're talking about.
      Stay strong lovely xxx