Why people find it hard to care

21/11/2016

Why people find it hard to care


Everyone has insecurities, everyone has self-doubt and everyone has a fear of not being good enough. Whether you've experienced this in the past, or are experiencing these feelings in the present; you're not alone. What I don't get, though, is why we can't express these emotions without being called a 'psycho' or being told we're 'overreacting' or feeling like it's not the 'cool' thing to do. When did being emotionless and not giving a fuck get cool? Why is it cool?

Part of being human is having emotions, it's not helping anyone when you suppress them and bottle them up. There is literally no reason you should be embarrassed about feeling a certain way at a certain time because of a certain thing.

I understand people claim not to give a fuck as a defence mechanism, I mean, how can you get hurt if you never cared in the first place, right? But people do care, even if they lock that emotion in a safe they never bothered learning the combination to and then hurled said safe off a boat in the middle of the ocean, people still give a fuck: about things and about other people. People even give a fuck about little things that may not matter to others, like that bitch who took the last piece of pizza in Greggs that you were eyeing up for 5 minutes in the queue.

PEOPLE CARE AND IT'S OKAY TO ADMIT IT. 

It's okay to admit someone hurt you, disappointed you, made you the happiest person alive or made you smile like a goof because they complimented your shoes. IT'S OKAY TO HAVE EMOTIONS.
I find, people who express their emotions are the bravest, most authentic people. They know in this society they are opening themselves up to judgement and funny looks for being excited/happy/angry/sad but they understand that that is how they feel and they aren't going to suppress their feelings for the sake of others.

They are brave because in a sea of 'I just don't give a fuck's they are the people admitting to themselves and others that actually I do give a fuck and what you said really hurt me. That nice thing that stranger did for me made me really happy. I am really excited to go to a festival, so excited I am going to jump up and down and clap about it because that is what I want to do right now.

Obviously, I get that you can't get caught up in every.little.thing that happens because yanno, your head will explode or some shit and it is literally okay to not have an opinion or emotion towards situations and subjects that you don't ~really~ care about. But the shit you do care about, admit it.
Admit that you care because as soon as you admit it, you will then stop giving a fuck about other people's judgements, and that to me is one of the greatest achievements.

When was the last time you expressed your true emotions in a difficult situation? How did it make you feel?


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  1. I'm definitely someone with a lot of self-doubt and I agree that we shouldn't be ashamed of talking about those emotions. I like talking about my personal fears on my blog cause I'm hoping it makes others feel less alone with their insecurities. I have to admit though, I'm not that good at expressing my emotions 'in real life' - I often keep them to myself which doesn't really help especially with the negative ones. Thank you for writing this, it encouraged me a lot x

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    1. Yeah that's one of the reasons I share my emotions openly on my blog too - in hope to let others know they're not alone! & Don't worry, I find it difficult to express them in real life too but it's just something I'm consciously working at each day. I hope you find strength to express your emotions more openly in real life too xxx

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