Do you believe in love at first sight?

19/12/2016

Do you believe in love at first sight


When I was younger I got caught up in a whirlwind of fairytales: princes and princesses locking eyes from across the ballroom, everything moving in slow motion as they glide towards each other, hands out, welcoming their first dance before tying the knot a few days later and living happily ever after.

Then I grew up. I didn't believe in love at first sight anymore, quite frankly, I thought it was pretty fucking shallow: you can love the way someone looks but you can't love them as a human being because of the way they look, it's ludicrous. I just didn't understand. But now, I get it, or at least what I think it means. I don't think you walk down the street and lock eyes with someone and hey presto you're now his wifey especially in this day and age 'cause everyone's too busy looking at their phone playing pok√©mon go, but I do believe that when you first meet someone, like when they're next to you and you actually greet each other with something along the lines of "hello" you can fall in love. 

I'm very much guided through "vibes" aka people's energies I know, I know, rora's being a hippy on the internet again lol so I look out for how certain people make me feel and I analyse WHY I feel that way because of that situation/person. You know when you're in a room full of people and you just naturally gravitate towards someone? Well, I put that down to energy and intuition: you're on the same level so you'll come together. The same way you can tell if you should stay the fuck away from someone/something, there was a house party I was at once and there was this guy, he looked completely normal but I had the worst vibe off of him so I left, straight away. I thought "fuck this, I'm out" and a week later I heard he'd tried raping someone the night after that house party. So, I judge by vibes. If I'm feelin' it or feelin' you, great I'll stick around, if not, I won't, see ya, yanno?

Bringing it back to the point, the day I "locked eyes" with Shane, I just knew. I knew we had a connection - a strong, strange connection: full platonic at first, but a connection nonetheless. Everything was just so easy with him. We were on the same wavelength and we just got each other: each other's sense of humour, each other's perceptions, each other's thought processes. I didn't think of it as love at first sight at the time but coming to write this I realised it kind of was. To me, love is that connection: the easiness, the lightness, the comfort, and I felt all of these things within the first seconds of meeting Shane. We had a connection which I have never felt with anyone else before, and I believe that is love at first sight. It is when you meet someone and instantly connect, a connection so strong even the universe feels it and will do everything in its power to keep throwing you together in hope you get to know each other more and the connection grows and roots itself in the spaces between your bones and wraps around your soul, then before you know it you're planning your entire lives together thinking "how on earth did we get here" but it doesn't matter because it just makes sense.

Love at first sight is recognising that connection. Being in love is following that feeling and digging for gold.

Do you believe in love at first sight?

5 comments

  1. This is beautiful! I totally understand what you mean, I never really thought of it as love at first sight but I completely get the whole vibes and feeling thing - and I think it's safe to say you've got good intuition!

    I don't really think I'm very good at reading people but I have been thinking lately that there are just people you get on with so easily. And not just that but I find it's these people, who bring a smile to your face that maybe your mind or heart (god how cringey) kind of knows a gooden before you do!?

    JosieVictoriaa // Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle

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    1. Thank you Josie! Yeah I mean love doesn't have to be romantic love - it can be platonic, too.

      Yeah there's people that you just click with and I think it's down to being on the save wave-length/frequency - I think it's actually been proven that if you have the same energy as someone (eg. If you're really excited and bubbly and they are too) you're more likely to get on with them and the conversation will flow easier - the same way Parents use high pitched 'baby' noises to speak to their babies cause it helps the bond between them grow stronger. xxx

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  2. I'm one of those people that don't believe in love at first sight at all! I understand what you mean about connection but I don't consider it love. You don't know them, you don't have understanding of their views or habits or personality. Maybe I'm just weird haha!
    Lovely post and interesting read!
    Freya x
    Miss-perceived.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. That's fair enough though I don't think you have to know someone to love them (platonic or romantic) to some degree (I think we should love everyone regardless and there's different 'levels' of love)
      Thank you for sharing your views though Freya! xxx

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  3. I'm one of those people that don't believe in love at first sight at all! I understand what you mean about connection but I don't consider it love. You don't know them, you don't have understanding of their views or habits or personality. Maybe I'm just weird haha!
    Lovely post and interesting read!
    Freya x
    Miss-perceived.blogspot.co.uk

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